You Hate Fat People.

a fat woman posts a "what i eat in a day" video and all of a sudden everyone's a dietitian

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major TW on this post for fatphobia!! this is kind of vent-y and not very well thought-out, and i might delete depending on how i feel about it in the morning, but let me know what you think! i know this is a touchy subject so i am open to any feedback if i can approach this differently in the future. fuck fatphobes

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You say all bodies are beautiful. You say all bodies are deserving of love.

A Dude Bro tweets “fat people are fat because they eat too much junk.” You rush to prove him wrong, “some fat people eat very healthy and are still fat!”. Your heart may be in the right place here, but in your core, you agree with the Dude Bro. You are only okay with fat people if they are actively trying to not be fat anymore. That is to say, you are not okay with fat people; you do not want fat people to exist.

You hate fat people.

You comment “you got this girl!” under a video of a fat woman drinking celery juice and protein, but like every “big back” comment under a video of a fat woman eating birthday cake; as if her enjoying the same snacks and desserts as you is a violation of some nutritional moral code. As if she owes you a performative Pilates princess lifestyle. As if her existence is a sin that she needs to repent for, only instead of Hail Mary’s it’s chia seed water and calorie deficits.

Oh, but you’re so kind. You walk past a fat woman hiking the same trail as you and you think to yourself “you got this queen!”. A fat woman takes a trip to Italy and shows off her authentic pasta dish; “We’re just so worried about your health,” you and about 50 others comment, out of the kindness of your hearts, I’m sure. But you don’t utter a word when your skinny friend pops a Zyn and eats a bag of Takis before bed.

“Body positivity has gone too far,” you say to your skinny friend (you would never say this to your fat friends), “they’re literally promoting obesity.” Of course, you have nothing so say about what the Hollywood Ozempidemic is promoting, you don’t really care about that, do you? You have more distain for a movement that is selling you absolutely nothing than you do for a trendy medication that belongs to an industry worth hundreds of billions of dollars. Because you really really hate fat people.

And it’s confusing to me. Because you call yourself a “liberal”, you hate the aforementioned bigoted Twitter Dude Bro; and yet, you want an entire group of people gone. You have proven this over and over again; you express encouragement when fat people go on overly restrictive diets and disgust when they eat the same way as you. Fat people’s existence makes you angry, and no matter how tolerant you claim to be, you have a lot more in common with the Twitter Dude Bro than you would like to admit.

Fat people don’t need to embark on an endless journey to shrink themselves, to erase themselves, simply to conform to what Tumblr told you was beautiful in 2014. Get a fucking grip.